is doomed.These include
- How they disagreed and going to sleep on an argument
- For one bride she said she was in fact always afraid of her partner
- Another person says they were married to someone who would never say they were sorry.
Apparently it's not what you disagree on, it's how you disagree.
'There's no such thing as two people perfect for each other, and how you approach the friction
is what either strengthens or eats away at a relationship,' the user writes.
'When you disagree, do you discuss the issue of the person? Is it, "I want sushi, but you want
pizza", or is it, "You always want sushi, I never get pizza".'
Whilst this difference is subtle, it's 'so much more important than most people realise'.
Basically, with the second approach, the person is being made out to be the problem instead of
the problem itself, and it shows that one person in the relationship is holding on to negative
emotions.
As a trained mediator I see this all to often.
When relationships break down emotions run high and talking face-to-face can seem like the
hardest thing to do.
Sometimes you need a hand to help get the talking started and focus on what really matters to you. That's where mediation comes in.
Mediation is a process to help couples who have decided to separate or divorce to talk things
through.
Mediation can help by:
- Reducing tension and hostility
- Helping you make informed decisions that are right for your circumstances
- Keeping communication channels open
- Saving the cost of expensive court battles
- Helping children by showing parents working together to resolve issues
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